PUBLISHED ON: 17 March 2020

Laura was pregnant with her second child when she was diagnosed with primary breast cancer. She was also told she had the BRCA2 gene. 

Laura and her baby

I felt so responsible 

When I was diagnosed, I was married with a two-year-old son and five months pregnant with my second child. It was a really scary time because I felt so responsible for the life I was carrying inside me, and had to think about her as well as me when it came to treatment options.  

As a result, breast cancer had a huge impact on our family life.  

My son was too young to understand but we told him as much as we could and we had a book from Breast Cancer Now called Mummy's Lump, which helped a lot. He still asks me to read it sometimes now. I find it hard as it takes me back to when I was going through treatment. 

Although he didn't really understand much of what was going on, all the sadness and fear in the house must have filtered through to him and I worry about that sometimes.  

I worry for my daughter 

I also found out that I have the BRCA2 gene mutation while I was still pregnant. I knew I was having a daughter and I knew there was a chance she would have it too.  

It breaks my heart to know that she might have to go through all of this.  

I try not to dwell on it as she can't be tested until she's an adult. Right now, she's three and she's so perfect - I hate to think there might be something in her genetics that could harm her in the future. 

Cancer stole my time with my children 

Being diagnosed while you have young children is hard. It's a busy and stressful time of life, as well as being full of wonder and joy, and there isn't much room for things like surgery and chemo

Obviously, you have to make room for them, but it's at the expense of other things, like trips to the park and adventures in the woods. Cancer stole things from me that I'll never get back.  

If you know someone in that position, and you're able to, offer help. It could be anything: a home-cooked meal, an hour's babysitting, a cup of tea and a chat. Those things make all the difference.

 

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