PUBLISHED ON: 23 January 2020

After finding a lump while on a work trip in April 2018, Fay was diagnosed with primary breast cancer. She was initially very calm about the situation, but treatment later caused some problems for her. 

I don’t feel like a woman anymore 

In this episode, we’re talking to Fay, who felt disconnected from her identity and sexuality in the months following her treatment.  

Shortly after being diagnosed, Fay underwent six rounds of chemotherapy, a double mastectomy and immediate reconstruction, and radiation treatment. All of this took a toll on her body, and the physical effects made her feel like she’d lost her femininity. It impacted how she felt about sex and intimacy with her husband. 

She tells us about the anxiety this caused her, and how – after a lot of worry and isolation – she was brave enough to talk to her husband about it.  

I was really frightened and nervous thinking: what if he’s not attracted to me anymore? I look completely different. I’m not the woman he married, I’m not the woman he chose.

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