1. Dealing with your emotions
2. If you’re feeling overwhelmed
3. Look after your mental health
4. Talking to family, friends and children
5. Dealing with isolation
6. Coping with life after treatment
7. Find out how others have coped
There’s no right or wrong way to feel after a diagnosis of breast cancer.
You’ll probably go through many emotions, from fear, shock and anger to disbelief, sadness and numbness.
Your emotions may change day to day or even hour to hour. It’s usual to have times when you feel very low followed by times when things seem more positive.
The days and weeks immediately after a diagnosis can be particularly emotional and feel overwhelming.
Many people start to feel a bit calmer or less anxious once they have been told about their treatment plan.
Things you can try that may help you cope
- Think about how you coped with previous trauma or stress – you could try using these methods again now
- Use your breast care nurse – they can help you understand your diagnosis and treatment options and support you during your treatment and beyond
- Be kind to yourself – it may help to take time to rest, eat healthily, keep active and, when you can, do something you enjoy
- Talk to family and friends about how you’re feeling – you might like to read our tips on telling family and friends about your cancer
It’s normal to feel overwhelmed when you’ve been diagnosed with cancer.
It can be hard to think straight or carry out normal everyday activities.
Some people have physical symptoms such as loss of appetite, diarrhoea or difficulty sleeping.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, it can help to talk to your GP. They can offer support and medication that can help in the short term.
Call our Helpline
Many people find it easier to talk someone other than family or friends. Calling our Helpline offers the chance to talk openly in a safe and confidential space without worrying about upsetting or protecting those close to you.
Call our Helpline free on 0808 800 6000.
Our Helpline staff are used to talking to people who are finding it hard to cope after a breast cancer diagnosis.
We’re used to hearing all sorts of reactions – nothing is surprising or unusual.
Calls are answered by an experienced breast care nurse or one of our trained staff who have a personal or work-related experience of breast cancer.
Whatever your reason for calling, we’ll respond in a friendly, understanding and professional way.
Our Helpline staff can also talk to you about your treatment and what to expect, as well as relevant services or information.
Mental health toolkit
We’ve pulled together information, tips and real life stories that could help if you’re finding it hard to cope.
Check out our mental health toolkit.
Stress and anxiety
It’s common to feel stressed and anxious after a diagnosis of breast cancer.
Some people experience anxiety for the first time. Others may have had anxiety in the past, and their cancer diagnosis can make their anxiety worse.
There are many ways to reduce stress and anxiety.
Find out more about managing stress and anxiety.
You may also find the following websites useful:
Low mood and depression
Most people experience low moods and sadness when they’re diagnosed.
Sometimes a cancer diagnosis can trigger depression.
Find out more about coping with low mood and depression.
If you’re finding it difficult to cope emotionally, you might want to talk to friends or family members about how you’re feeling.
We’ve put together some tips for how to tell family and friends about your cancer.
You can also read our tips on talking with children about breast cancer.
Feeling lonely or isolated is very common.
You may feel lonely even when you’re surrounded by family and friends. If they haven’t experienced cancer themselves, you might feel like they don’t understand what you’re going through.
Connecting with people who understand
For some people, connecting with others who are in a similar situation can help reduce feelings of isolation, as well as anxiety or fear.
Breast Cancer Now’s Someone Like Me service can put you in touch with someone with a similar experience of breast cancer. You can talk through your worries and share experiences over the phone.
If you prefer to chat by email, you can use the Someone Like Me email service.
Our online Forum lets you exchange tips on coping, ask questions, share experiences and talk through concerns online.
Finishing your hospital-based treatment can feel like a real achievement. But many people find it difficult to adjust to life after treatment.
You may find it useful to:
- Read our information on life after treatment
- Download the free Becca app for hints and tips on life after treatment
- Consider a Moving Forward course
Some people find it helpful to read stories of others who have been affected by breast cancer.
You can find many personal stories on our website including:
- Kate’s story: Even though people offered support, it was hard not to feel alone
- Louisa’s story: Someone Like Me helped me stay positive during the worst parts of treatment
- Aisling’s story: After my treatment, I found it hard to readjust
Breast Cancer Now’s free Becca app also features stories of people who have been through breast cancer.